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Post by Fabi Paras on Jan 17, 2020 11:24:12 GMT
Thanks, rhouses. I go back to our days of working together and there was 5 of us who all joined roughly around the same time all aged between 17-20. And, he was probably the weaker one of us, probably the butt of too many jokes back then if I'm honest. We got made redundant at the same time 9 years later but somehow he was retained and shunted to a job in the back office [logistically it worked for him and not me]. He rebuilt his career and actually became, it seemed, a stronger character and had a successful second part of his career and family life so it came as a terrible shock; despite not seeing him regularly for the last 20 years other than in passing in the street or where our work paths (M&A etc) crossed. He was very popular and personable.
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Post by LT 🍺 🤜 🤦♀️ on Jan 17, 2020 11:24:30 GMT
Alcohol is a chemical depressant so it's far more likely to harm than weed. It's about time that silly age old notion is put to bed.
People who smoke a lot are usually trying to numb pain from other areas in their life, it's a deeper issue.
Dan, very sorry to hear about your colleague. A good pal of mine from childhood ended his life last year. The last person in the world you'd imagine would go down that road. Didn't drink or smoke, had a a nice family with 2 young girls and was doing his dream job working as a fireman for the armed forces. One of life's great mysteries.
Walk a mile in a man's shoes.
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Post by dubman on Jan 17, 2020 11:30:34 GMT
Had a good friend who took an overdose about 18 months ago.He was an alcoholic & did suffer with depression bought on by drink. It's a sad story as from the outside looking in he seemed to have the perfect life. came from a wealthy family & didn't really do any work at all.
I do suffer with a little anxiety occasionally but not sure whether it's the 30 years of smoking weed. I did give it up about two years ago and feel much better and more confident.
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Post by rosscoe on Jan 17, 2020 11:37:03 GMT
I work in adult mental health and our current waiting list for therapy and counselling is 20 weeks (NHS) it's even bigger in other areas. Just goes to show how many are suffering. It's so important to talk to each other, our friends, family and colleagues. Especially us fellas, open up lads, we will all struggle at some stage and it's nothing to be ashamed of. Diet, exercise and sleep all very important, seems simple I know but lots of us struggle with one or more of these. Lots of mindfullness apps and help online. Get talking !
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Post by unbroken1 on Jan 17, 2020 11:41:24 GMT
...sorry to hear about your friend Dan. Life can be fucking tough.
Very thankful that I haven't had any close friends that have suffered to this extent, although you look at the complexities in some folk's lives as they get older and you sometimes seriously wonder how they cope.
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Post by Fabi Paras on Jan 17, 2020 11:56:22 GMT
The guy who's funeral I went to on Wednesday would have been the ideal candidate for taking his own life, but he was a stubborn git. The stubbornness probably contributed to his final passing. He was 53 and had been an alcoholic from probably his late teens. Hadn't had a drink in 18 years and that was probably down to his stubbornness. However, he came out as gay about 15 years ago (tbf, my radar never pinged the once in all the time I knew him) and to me about 5 years ago in a very bizarre interaction online!
Now, he grow up in SE London during a time where you just couldn't be gay. So, that was probably why he was an alcoholic. He would get catastrophically slaughtered. He was a massive non-league football fan and would watch my games from when I was 16 right through to when I finished playing. The bizarre thing about him was away from the football he was a very learned man. Museums, galleries, books, Non-League Trainspotter always, always on the go. He probably filled his time to get away from his demons. He had a heart attack on the way to a ground to see an Army vs RAF game in some Kent backwater, he just had to see a game.
He recovered but had a toe amputated due to infection. But, he would eat the greasiest food or the thickest pies but couldnt be told that he should probably slow down on the bad food. Alas, it led to another heart attack the day before the election.
He was a massive Socialist so probably ducked out at the right time!
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Post by jules72 on Jan 17, 2020 12:42:16 GMT
Well done for posting Dan and really sorry to hear about your mate....I’ll be honest - I had a shocker the past couple of years during a nasty divorce and another relationship ending. Had depression and insomnia. Thankfully getting to the other end of it now. Exercise, diet and limiting alcohol has helped a lot. Anyone ever need any pointers feel free to drop me a line.
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Post by Incognito Audio on Jan 17, 2020 12:45:13 GMT
Why not smoke the hemp buds they give a zen like feeling without the psychoactive element and is great for sleep, I take 900mg of magnesium, Zinc and B6 its really good for nodding off.
Weed could give people a temporary meditative state but will not be the solution in the end.
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Post by absolutely boss THREADS on Jan 17, 2020 12:49:30 GMT
First time it's been said on the board? |
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Post by Fabi Paras on Jan 17, 2020 12:52:10 GMT
It actually felt quite cathartic typing it, Dave. The love one man gives to another can never be undervalued.
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Post by christian on Jan 17, 2020 14:13:37 GMT
crikey its really good to see other people have been through similar issues. I had a complete nervous breakdown about 3 years ago and was under a couple of specialists for over a year. never ever thought i would bounce back but cutting out all clubbing and what goes with it was a massive improvement. long gone are all the long weekends with no sleep. instead lots of running, booze only once a week and a daily dose of cbd oil seems to have worked. absolutely petrifying to see the state your brain can get in. I had to lcut ties with loads of mates, as for years every time we got together we battered it.
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Post by Fabi Paras on Jan 17, 2020 14:18:33 GMT
Christian, do you think your problems were as a result of your clubbing excesses?
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Post by heno on Jan 17, 2020 14:20:09 GMT
I would have gone insane if I'd carried on smoking pot like then. Especially with how strong it is now. same the stuff is wild now, |
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Post by millsy on Jan 17, 2020 14:23:03 GMT
Had a couple of puff, puff passes a few weeks back and was bowled over. My mate then spieled off a load of stuff about the THC/CBD strength but I was far too busy trying not to whitey to take any notice.
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Post by heno on Jan 17, 2020 14:26:20 GMT
Yeah it's a massive thing depression touches alot of families my mother suffered terrible with it and unless you've lots of money the doctors just throw tablets that completely modify your behavior/ mind, tbh I think proper excerise and conciling would help alot more people than tablets but the doctors are so lazy / don't give a shit that the cycle just continues
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